If you’ve ever found yourself wanting to practice your Spanish more authentically—but also hesitating because it feels weird or awkward—you’re not alone. It might seem disrespectful to use Spanish with bilingual people, especially when you know they can speak English better than you can speak Spanish. You want to practice, but they usually switch to English straight away and you don’t want to be that person who’s just using them for free language practice. If this sounds like you read on to learn how to engage respectfully with native speakers.
If this sounds like you – first of all—bravo for even thinking this deeply about it. If you’re asking how to engage respectfully, you’re already on the right track.
Why People Switch to English—and What You Can Do About It
Bilingual people often switch to English out of habit or kindness. They’re trying to make you feel more comfortable. In many communities in the U.S., especially where Spanish speakers have faced discrimination, switching to English can also be a defense mechanism—avoiding judgment, assumptions, or uncomfortable situations.
But that doesn’t mean you’re not welcome to speak Spanish. In fact, many people appreciate the effort. The key is in how you approach it.
Try this simple, respectful opener:
“¿Te importa si practico mi español contigo? Todavía estoy aprendiendo.”
Translation: “Do you mind if I practice my Spanish with you? I’m still learning.”
This shows humility, intention, and respect. It opens the door for them to say yes (which they often will!) or to gently suggest switching to English if they prefer. Either way, it puts the power in their hands—and that’s where it belongs.
You’re Not a Fraud—You’re a Learner
Feeling like a fraud is so common it even has a name: imposter syndrome. But using a language imperfectly doesn’t make you fake—it makes you human. Nobody expects you to be perfect. They just want you to be real, kind, and willing to learn.
And no, you’re not “using” anyone by engaging respectfully in their native language. Language is meant to connect us. When done with care, your Spanish can be a bridge, not a burden.
So next time you’re in a Spanish-speaking environment? Take a breath, smile, and give it a go. You might be surprised how many people will root for you. And check out a mini Spanish lesson below with a great phrase you can use instead of “I don’t speak Spanish”.
